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So I just found out, by reading fragments of other people's journals, that a bunch of my friends were in a major car accident on Saturday or Sunday, and one is very seriously injured.

Nobody told me. Nobody even thought to call my office.

The accident happened less than a quarter mile from me. And I didn't know.

The bottom of my stomach is kinda gone, right now.

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I don't know that anyone called anyone. I found out Sunday morning by reading Anna's (

katalpha) journal, and investigating from there.

In addition to being overwhelmed by the accident (and thus not necessarily focused on correctly informing everyone), I think that with something as personal as a person's health (I've been HIPAA trained, so this has been drilled into me) people are not sure what's appropriate to tell people, and what is not.

That all said,

volemaster posted the number for the hospital in

katalpha's journal. So that's a good place to start. Also, Rachel K(

robyscots is in Akron, and can provide directions to the hospital for anyone who is lost.

Oh, and if you're saddish, look at the cute kitty on my livejournal. It does not make up for an injured friend, but it did keep me from crying at work.

Kitties are always good.

*hug*

Take care. It sounds like everyone is going to be all right.

*hugs* Yeah, I know. Just...sheesh.

I really need to get my computer fixed. Seems like I'm missing out on everything important.

Well, I mean, at the risk of putting you down, I'm not exactly sure why anyone's immediate reaction would have been "Call Matt!"

I mean, again, nothing personal, but there are a rather large number of people who know one or more of the parties involved, and a huge calling chain just wouldn't make sense. I mean, I didn't get any calls either, but I just kind of assumed that was because, hey, it was being dealt with on people's LJs instead.

Since, I mean, the LJ is really a pretty good way of getting information out to a circle of friends in these enlightened times.

I'm gonna have to echo this good chap here, you're not the center of the universe. If the doctors were helping me put all the blood back in my body my first through fiftieth reactions wouldn't be to inform all my acquaintences.

Hang loose. That's the best thing you can do.

True, true. But as I mentioned, would have been nice to have heard something eventually, rather than bits and pieces 2nd and 3rd hand.

It'll be okay, I'm just 'bwuh!'

Believe me, I know, I just kinda wish that since I was talking to everyone involved not long before it happened, that someone might have thought I'd want to know about it.

Yes, but... I mean... most of the people who would be in a position to care were probably a bit busy being really worried that their FRIENDS WERE IN THE HOSPITAL.

I mean, I'm just pointing out that there's a certain element of... hubris here, to think that you would really be registering on anyone's radar in that situation.

Yes, but I don't think it's hubris to say that I wish I'd known friends were in the hospital, which was kinda the point.

Okay people, back the fuck off of Matt!! I am sorry but I can see why he feels a bit down! When everyone else seems to know something about people you care about it does seem like you are the odd one out. I really am sorry that no one got in touch with you Matt! I think that we all rely on livejounal too much and think that if we post it everyone will know. I don't think this is you being too into yourself, its just you saying PLEASE try to make sure more people know about something like this. I will try my best to make sure you do know the next time something like this happens.

I wasn't meaning it as a criticism that Matt was horribly narcissistic or anything... it was mostly just that I couldn't imagine criticizing anyone for not telling someone... and that it really shouldn't be taken as some personal slight against Matt so much as...

Peoplpe had other things on their minds.

I'm not criticizing anyone. I just wanted to know. Why do you think I'm taking it as a personal slight?

(I am a little offended that you assumed I'd be that shallow, tho.)

It was mostly in the phrasing of your original post - you seemed offended that no one had called you. Which just struck me as an odd thing to be offended by - as though the fact that you had just talked to them and yet nobody called you was something that upset you.

If it was, as it appears from more recent replies, just you being upset that you didn't know, that's another thing entirely - it just didn't seem phrased that way initially. =)

Understandable. I don't think anyone writes well in shock. :D

Shhh. *hugs* It's okay. :D I think I did kinda deserve that, actually.

And I do appreciate the offers for more knowledge next time...but is it okay if I just hope there isn't a next time?

Though I think the reason everyone figured LJ would work is that really, when was the last time you saw me without a computer? That I went totally net-free this weekend is rather odd for me, and I can see why others wouldn't think about it.

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