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[bzarcher]

I got a call from Alison a bit ago.
She and Dad had been fighting about City Year, and it's bad enough she needed me to come get her so she can stay here for at least overnight.

Things came out during this drive.

She's been having shakes. She's been having aphasia. She's been forgetting how to count. She's been losing feeling in her limbs. She's been feeling like she's going to pass out.

We have a family history of MS. She hasn't seen a doctor because she's scared.

I had her talk to Steve. His diagnosis is that she needs to see a Neurologist within the next week if not sooner.

I have to go downstairs and be supportive, and confident, and everything she needs right now.

I want to stay in my room and scream or cry or hide.

I can't deal with this. I'm going to anyhow. But I can't.

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[annotated_em]

[hugs]

[austenbronte.livejournal.com]

*hugs* it sucks to have to be the strong one but I know you will do great!

[chaoticgoodnik.livejournal.com]

*hug* My pal Alisa has MS. She's not necessarily a good person for Alison to talk to right off the bat, though - Alisa's experience has been pretty hellish.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Our formerly live-in aunt has it to, and she's seen it first hand. I think that's why she's been so scared to see a doctor. :/

She's trying to get me to promise I won't tell Mom and Dad if I take her to the doctor. I can't hold to that promise, I don't think. Tears me up.

[deza.livejournal.com]

Freak out after the crisis is over, hon.

[pianorockmelody.livejournal.com]

Dear god. I'm so sorry, hon. *big big hug* I hope everything turns out okay.

Keep us updated.

My turn now....

[skarlette.livejournal.com]

*Hugs* I'm here for you...I'm an old hand at dealing with crisis by now. If you need to...talk. I love you.

[snowspinner.livejournal.com]

If it's what it takes, make the promise.

She's an adult. Let her make the decision, whether you agree with it or not.

The most important thing is that you get her the help she needs. Whatever the cost of that. You can clean up the mess later. But if it comes to it, you can't save her life later.

[ptika.livejournal.com]

I have loads of sympathy for you and Alison. My family history has the threat of Alzheimer's in it, and I live in dread of seeing it strike again someday.

Love and hope for Alison.

[faire-damsel.livejournal.com]

*Hugs*

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Trying to. Or at least to not freak out anywhere she can see. I took a couple breaks last night to go upstairs and cry.

She says she's going to go back and stay with Mom and Dad tonight. I told her only to do so if she really felt comfortable.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

The problem is that I am not sure she'd be able to get the help she needs without telling them. She doesn't have personal insurance, just my dad's family coverage, and I can't extend my insurance to her easily.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[deza.livejournal.com]

Gods, this is a hard one. You have my sympathies. If there's anything I can do from here, let me know. *hugs*

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Thank you.

Re: My turn now....

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Thank you, love.

I love you, too.

[angeljester.livejournal.com]

Honestly - it's not fair to your folks to not tell them. If it is bad news she's going to need all of you to help her. She might be scared but Family is there to take care of it's own.

Love her and be strong for her, make the promise and break it when it comes neccessary - Your folks Need to know. Hiding it from them doesn't help. She may not see it now but in time I think she will.

*hugs*

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

You're right, I think. Though since my mom's taking her to the doctor anyhow, I'm going to start with just agreeing that I think she is having problems. More can come later.