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Jun. 15th, 2002 11:07 am
HAHAHAHA
Find out what anime character cliche you are.
Going to help Alex move in shortly, we're waiting in the current tenant to get her lazy ass out. (She was supposed to do this -Thursday-.)
Alex is apparently sitting atop a pile of boxes that I get to help assemble into actual furniture. Yeehah.
God....reading my friends page wheels between really exciting and horribly traumatic.
Then it all turns to shit.
Someone I know tried to kill herself. Apparently she was found, and taken to a hospital, but that's all I know.
The relationship between two of my friends seems.......rocky, at best.
Bad shit is happening. Unfortunately, I can't think of a damned thing to do about it.
Oh, while out with Alex, we went to visit Isa. That was...odd. I understand that she apparently missed me, but the fact that she wrapped herself around me after running from her door to the car on the street to tackleglomp me was very odd. Especially when she ran her hands all over my back and kept repeating how much she missed me. :/ Not to mention spending the whole time holding my hand? What in the hell?
For someone who has "no interest in you other than as a friend", she seems to enjoy trying to monopolize my body a lot. Not to mention feeling me up in most places. Why did she have to do this -after- I finally got over my crush on her? I got the hint to stop wanting to date her, and -now- you're hot for me????? Especially when I'm wondering if she's someone I'd really be happy in a relationship -with-.
This may require "bigger fucking guns."
Anyhow. Going to meet Alex.
Bigger guns?
Date: 2002-06-15 10:46 am (UTC)First, try asking her why she's doing this. Some people like being cuddlier with friends than others; though this sounds like it's probably too extreme to be that, best to double-check before you start taking any action that might hurt somebody's feelings.
The next bit, I suppose, is obvious: start out by sitting her down and telling her briefly but clearly, "please don't do that." You'd be able to pick out exact words much better than I, of course, between your actually knowing her and your having asked the aforementioned question.
If that doesn't work, then you'll just have to grit your teeth and be firmer and blunter with her. Push her hands away, pull out lines about violating your personal space, that sort of thing. I know all too well that this kind of stuff is hard to do without hurting feelings, but then, you talk about her enough that I hope your friendship is long-standing and strong can weather a few rocks if rocks are what it takes...
Anyway, good luck with your efforts. -- Pteryx
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Date: 2002-06-15 10:50 am (UTC)See, the thing with girls like that is that they like attention. So now that you don't have a crush on her, you're probably not paying as much attention to her as before. She realises this and is playing it up, trying to get you to go all melty around her because she knows that you did have a crush on her. Think of it as dangling a carrot in front of your nose in the hopes that you'll start giving her that attention she desires. Chances of her giving you that carrot are probably slim to none, though.
Anyway, since I don't actually know her, you'll have to figure out for yourself if that's correct or not. *shrugs* Have fun doing the moving thing, and remember to read the instructions! ;)
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Date: 2002-06-15 02:39 pm (UTC)Other people are much more eloquent than I, so I'll let them handle the specifics of suggestions. I'm not too good in that department. But what I can offer is this... don't take more on yourself than you deserve. Be there for your friends, but don't take blame for problems that aren't your own. You have your own worries without making somebody else's yours.
Be strong, little zippo!
Goofy Protagonists and Bigger Guns
Date: 2002-06-16 12:49 pm (UTC)As to Isa . . there's a variety of reasons. She may be, as suggested, more comfortable with being pet-some with those she knows to be friends. Or trusts to push her away when she's going overboard. >:p
Admittably, I can't think too highly of someone who doesn't trust their own control like that.
Frankly, Hun, you're going to need to lay down the law on what she's doing, if it makes you uncomfortable.