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[bzarcher]

Well, I'm single again, and I've told Lisa she needs to find a new place to live.

We're going to give her 30 days to do that.

Comments

[valkyrwench.livejournal.com]

And how are *you* dealing with this?

*hugs*

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Well, fortunately, I'd already thrown up before I went to talk to her, so that wasn't a problem.

It hurts, right now, and I won't lie about that. It hurts a lot. But after all was said and done, I told her that I couldn't be in a relationship where she just kept lying on top of lies, and wouldn't tell me the truth unless I forced the issue.

And as much as that hurts, I think that was the right stance to take.

[chaoticgoodnik.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Thanks, hon. *hug*

[sehkmet.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, hon. *hugs* Keep your chin up.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Thankya. *hug* I'll do my best.

[buschap.livejournal.com]

Hey, man, take care of yourself. I'm glad you're handling it maturely and being respectful to her.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Thanks. All I tried to do was stay calm...

[jennekirby.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry to hear it (despite the fact that other comments on this entry make it sound like it was a healthy decision, which is good), and send hugs and my best wishes.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*nods* It's really, really sad it had to happen, but the way things went, I am hoping it will be for the best in the end.

[demeterschild.livejournal.com]

She best watch herself. All bets are off as to what will happen if Steve or I get hold of her. I think Steve will simply tell her what he thinks of her.

I make no promises of good behavior.

*grrs and goes into Big Sister mode*

I am glad you are shed of her issues, and just keep in mind that it hurts to dig a splinter out, but that pain is less than what would come of leaving it in to fester.

Ping if you need anything. When I get the land phone working, I'll holler.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*nod* Well, we'll burn that bridge when we get to it, I guess.

[flaggerx.livejournal.com]

That really, really sucks for everyone involved. Good luck to you.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Thankya. I appreciate it.

[ninniane.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Without knowing the details, I'm hesitant to say anything, but I hope things are working out for the best and that you are happier.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*nods* It's...complicated. Let's just say that trust became a major problem.

[paradisacorbasi.livejournal.com]

Wow.

I'm sorry it came to this, but truth and trust are vital in a relationship.

You had to protect yourself and do what you had to do.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*hug* Thanks.

So am I.

[browntreesnake.livejournal.com]

Dude. I think there's an echo in here.

I've been on both sides of this sort of thing (and let me tell you it sucks to admit that), and I think you handled it really well. It's what it took for me, from both sides of the fence.

Let me know if you could use something tropical - eases soreness and all that.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*nods* I appreciate the thoughts.

About the only goofy thing I can think to ask for is a tiki mask...but that's a little over the top. :D

[tempest56.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry to hear it happened this way. I was hoping when I read your last post that, I dunno. Something maybe might prevent things. But it seems like this is maybe for the best. I remember us having a lot of talk last time, when we both were in the same position. I hope things get better for you this time, too.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Carl.

How are you doing? I hadn't heard much since you went back to the US pending your application...

[deza.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Thanks.

[ladysephiroth.livejournal.com]

*huggles* I know how you feel - ending a relationship is one of the worst things in the world but sometimes it just HAS to happen. And feel however you want to feel, don't keep it in. We're thinking of you over here :)

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

That's kinda the odd part - it may be due to the flu medicine and nyquil I'm on right now, but after the initial pain and shock? Very numb.

[narel.livejournal.com]

:( This is sad, and bad, but from what you have said sounds like a good decision. I am quite impressed how well you seem to have handled everything. i don't understand what things go into causing a person to behave like that. and i am very sorry it happened to you, and i hope that (though really, i am sure that) your involvement with lisa and everything that happened will make you into a better and stronger person somehow, or more something good. Hugs and love!

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

"The world breaks us all, and we become strong in the broken places." *hugs*

[felislachesis.livejournal.com]

Small update... Matt's asleep, I'm not. I don't sleep until 2 am normally anyway. Lisa's at a friend's house down the street.

Matt never did anything to hurt her physically, he never raised his voice. I know inside, Matt's hurting a lot, but he's keeping himself very calm about the issue.

Any serious relationship has to be built on a solid foundation of trust. Without that, everything else is meaningless.

[ardaniel]

Any serious relationship has to be built on a solid foundation of trust. Without that, everything else is meaningless.

Which is totally why you two make such great heterosexual lifemates. ;)

[avylin.livejournal.com]

Stand tall, stand strong, this you shall weather and withstand. I'm rooting for you.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Avy.

[parasaurolophus.livejournal.com]

I'm really sorry to hear all this happened to you.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Nothing ya'll had control over. :D If anything, so of you guys were warning me about this relationship from the start...oh, well.

[vroomsocko.livejournal.com]

It sounds like you did the right thing, and I'm sorry to hear it.

Good luck, man.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Thanks

[truebluespark]

*hug*

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*hug* Thanks

[dr4b]

uh, dude, I'm sorry. I read the other entry, and don't have much useful to say, but good luck with it all. I've been there too, it sucks.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*nods* It's OK. I can't think of much to say either right now.

[flying-landon.livejournal.com]

It's a shame that people pull that kind of bullshit.

I'm rootin' for ya, man.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I really do appreciate it.

[doomflower.livejournal.com]

You did the right thing. Whatever you do, don't knuckle under if she pulls the drama card and says she can't possibly find a place within 30 days, or whatever. You're being extremely reasonable and accomodating about this, considering the facts.

Hang in there. You know you have us to lean on if you need to.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Thankya.

I'm pretty sure she can, actually. I really don't think she would have mentioned that Richard's new place has "a bunch of extra bedrooms!" if it wasn't a hint.

[aravis128.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

If you would like to get together and play around Columbus, just give a call.
Afterall, you are a way cool person. And I have yet to see you since I moved here.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I will, I promise. Just need a little time.

[psywildfire.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear this happened. Hang in there, man.

-WF

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Thankya.

[mg4h.livejournal.com]

Ah, suck. I'm sorry it was true.

*HUG*

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

I can't even say it was all 100% true, but the problem is it was all so covered in lies that I didn't have anything else I could see.