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[bzarcher]

Hrm. Awake again.

So here's a difficult question. Mom comes up to me.

"So, have you and skarlette (though she used her IRL first name), talked about religion?"
-"Why?"
"Well, we're curious, and I'm sure your grandparents will want to know."

This will be difficult. I kinda fudged and said we'd not talked about it much. why? Because apparently they're not in the mood to believe that I'm not Christian, and I know my grandparents really aren't that cut out to deal with it.

Hell, I think grandma freaked one time when I dated a unitarian girl.

*sighs* I know I gotta deal with this at some point, but I -really- don't want to.

Comments

[ardaniel]

I take it "Yes, we have, and we're pleased to find we share the same beliefs and values" is too much of a fudge?

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

Small storytime.

About 3 weeks after I started going to Wooster, my parents came to visit. They asked me if I'd started going to another church yet. (Ironic, since at the time they'd not stepped inside St. John's for a year.) When I said I was thinking about trying the Episcopal church downtown, I was not only grilled on the name, names of the rectors, and if I was gonna sing in the choir, but they wanted me to take them there so they could look at it. (And, I think check my answers.)

You tell me if that would work.

[doomflower.livejournal.com]

There ARE going to be fireworks about this, so I believe you're only putting off the inevitable. It's probably going to upset them about as much as if you were coming out to them to tell them you were gay, for example: you're not, in some way, fulfilling their hopes for you. There's nothing wrong with that; you are your own person. They may be angry or even devastated for a while. But I really think you should tell them, because if they find out some other way than from you, the damage might be irrepairable.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

I'm sure you're right....but part of me just doesn't want to tell them while I have to live anywhere near them, because it'd be much easier to write them a letter another time.

[n9vls.livejournal.com]

If you and skarlette (http://www.livejournal.com/users/skarlette) share beliefs fairly close to one another, it'll have to work out better than some alternatives...

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

We do, really. Quite so. Really, we're more compatible than my parents were, or my grandparents and my parents.

*Smiles indulgently and quotes Tom Smith....*

[skarlette.livejournal.com]

Jenny be fair, and Jenny be fine, and wants me for to wed,
And I would marry Jenny, but my father up and said,
"I hate to tell you something, son, you maybe never knew,
But Jenny's voted Democrat since Nineteen-Eighty-Two."

Well, Julie be fair, and Julie be fine, and wants me for to wed,
And I would marry Julie, but my father up and said,
"Now listen, boy, a girl's a toy for cold and lonely nights,
And Julie's worked the last decade for womens' equal rights."

Well, Mary is fair, and Mary is fine, and wants to marry me,
But Father said, "You're out of your head, she's not the girl for thee,
She works in an abortion clinic, lives with pain and strife,
And might get blown to smithereens one night by Right to Life."

Well, Rachel is cute, and thinks of me as husband-on-the-hoof,
But when my father heard of it, he up and hit the roof:
"How can you think to marry her? My God, the girl's a Jew!"
I didn't mention Stephanie, who's pagan through and through.

Fine! Gail is cute, and Gail is tough, and wants to be my pal.
But Dad said, "Marry her if you must, but don't befriend a gal!"
I tried to tell him Gail does not want to marry me,
But Gail told him better than I -- best two falls out of three.

Well, every time a woman seems to be the one for me,
My father blows it all to Hell with his philosophy,
But I prefer my lady friends, and they have much more class,
So I'll have an affair with whomever I care, and Dad can kiss my ass.

*Gives you a very happy hug*

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

You know, next time people wonder just how perfect you are (at least as far as I'm concerned), I'm pointing them at that.

Re: *Smiles indulgently and quotes Tom Smith....*

[demeterschild.livejournal.com]

Amen!!