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blipangel:
1. Leave me a comment saying, "Interview me."
2. I will respond by asking you 5 questions of a very personal nature.
3. You will update your LJ with the answers to the questions.
4. You will include this and an offer to interview someone else in the post.
5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them 5 questions.
1. You mentioned an ex during my last trip to Columbus. What happened?
Ow. Getting right to it...well, tt's documented in this journal back through the past few years, but here's the main version.
Boy meets girl through online community. Boy talks to girl and gets into an LDR, including multiple visits to Chicago to see her. Girl comes out for Boy's college graduation, starts occasionally visiting him in Ohio as well, and things seem to be progressing well.
Girl has a traumatic event (best friend dies) and decides to leave Chicago and move out to Ohio. Boy comes out to help her move and gets threatened by one of her roommates. Girl comes to Ohio, moves in with boy, everything seems awesome at first, but Girl starts getting oddly distant. Girl says it's just issues and dealing with the loss of her friend, so Boy tries to give her space and it sorta turns into a wierd stalemate of a relationship spike with occasional tenderness and infrequent sex.
2 years later, girl reveals that the roommate who threatened Boy's life is now living in Columbus! Then a few months later says that he's living on the street and she's been taking money from Boy and using it to help support roommate, along with some very tall tales about what she's been doing when she was supposedly hanging out with some of her friends she'd made in Columbus. Boy finds out that Girl has, depending how one looks at it, either been cheating on him for several years, or never really loved him that much, and was mostly using him for food, a home, and a convenient body when she was really in love with the ex-roommate and was just waiting for him to come back to her.
Boy confronts Girl, Girl refuses to look Boy in the eye, and Boy tells her to pack her shit and get out of his house. Boy is good enough to give her a month to find a place to live and a new job. It's gloriously painful and awkward. Boy eventually recovers his emotional centrepoint and got the best prescription ever from his friend down at UC med: "No women - 6 months." Boy has pretty much been dry since then, too, unfortunately, due to most of the women who really interest me being A) Taken or B) In other states, and the whole LDR thing is not really a direction I want to go in. (Ok, let's also admit that there's probably more than a few that are also C) Not Interested. I admit I'm not the greatest catch out there.)
2. Your knowledge of the game of hockey is unrivaled amongst my friends. Why hockey?
I really just fell in love with the sport, and once I fell, I wanted to learn everything I could about it. I watched games, grabbed books, listened to oral histories, and it's a subject I really find fascinating. I tend to listen to the Home Ice (NHL) channel on my XM radio more than anything else, and during the season when they're usually talking about something new almost all the time, I love it - I soak it up like a sponge. Plus, I think the general attitudes you see in both the players and the fans resonates with my personality - you tend to get the attitude that it's about being a good, honest, postive person from most hockey environments, and I think that tends to rub off a lot on the fans and followers too.
3. You also exhibit a vast knowledge of history, specifically: military history. Why?
It's always been a hobby - and that's what I did get my degree in. :> I also have the kind of mind that absorbs and analyzes research very easily, so I tend to do well taking a lot of historical information and coming to conclusions about the causes, results, and impact of the discussed events, which is always fun. I love seeing the ways so many little things can create massive, sweeping changes.
4. You're a big man. Big enough to have social/psychological implications because of the way people react to you. How do you deal with the shitheads?
I used to have some serious anger issues. My temper's still not something I want to lose control of. The biggest thing I learned basically came down to: There are things worth getting angry about, and there are things that aren't. Everything that isn't worth getting angry about, I try to just let slide off, or just walk away from it and blow it off. Some Kenpo training and doing work in SCA fighting in College also helped with my control, but I think the biggest thing happened because I was a -serious- emotional mess for awhile when I first got out of High School and started college, and I hit dead rock bottom, including what may or may not have been a suicide attempt - to be honest, I'm really not sure. I -was- cutting myself for awhile, especially my arms, but at the time I was telling myself it was just a way to force a response out of myself, and I wasn't caring about what others thought.
Other people thought I was going suicidal, so I had a nice hospital stay and some mandatory counseling that my friends made sure I attended (and, now that I think about it, probably kept my family from finding out about), and pulling myself back together after that. Once I got myself back above water, a lot of things started to come together for me, and I really started to pull my shit togerther, and with that came looking at how I handled stuff, and making myself grow up and act like an adult.
It also got me into some very, very odd places with some things that happened on campus as things went on, but that's another show.
5. EVE... Firefly/Serenity... Star Wars/Star Trek... why are you a space nerd?
It all starts with robots. Absolutely loved robots as a little kid. Short Circuit, Transformers, StarCom, Gobots, Dr. Who, Star Wars, didn't matter. If it had robots, I wanted to see it. :> That lead into science fiction in general, and space stuff, and then my dad gave me my first Heinlein and Asimov books when I was 4 or 5, and it was alllll downhill from there. :D It's been a lifelong addiction fed by a very active imagination. I love the idea of visiting other planets, traveling beyond our solar system and exploring the darkness. It really captivates me.
(And yes, I do already have my DVR queued up for When We Left Earth this weekend in HD....)
Anyhow, I think that's that. Hope people enjoyed the reading, or at least weren't too bored. :D
blipangel:1. Leave me a comment saying, "Interview me."
2. I will respond by asking you 5 questions of a very personal nature.
3. You will update your LJ with the answers to the questions.
4. You will include this and an offer to interview someone else in the post.
5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them 5 questions.
1. You mentioned an ex during my last trip to Columbus. What happened?
Ow. Getting right to it...well, tt's documented in this journal back through the past few years, but here's the main version.
Boy meets girl through online community. Boy talks to girl and gets into an LDR, including multiple visits to Chicago to see her. Girl comes out for Boy's college graduation, starts occasionally visiting him in Ohio as well, and things seem to be progressing well.
Girl has a traumatic event (best friend dies) and decides to leave Chicago and move out to Ohio. Boy comes out to help her move and gets threatened by one of her roommates. Girl comes to Ohio, moves in with boy, everything seems awesome at first, but Girl starts getting oddly distant. Girl says it's just issues and dealing with the loss of her friend, so Boy tries to give her space and it sorta turns into a wierd stalemate of a relationship spike with occasional tenderness and infrequent sex.
2 years later, girl reveals that the roommate who threatened Boy's life is now living in Columbus! Then a few months later says that he's living on the street and she's been taking money from Boy and using it to help support roommate, along with some very tall tales about what she's been doing when she was supposedly hanging out with some of her friends she'd made in Columbus. Boy finds out that Girl has, depending how one looks at it, either been cheating on him for several years, or never really loved him that much, and was mostly using him for food, a home, and a convenient body when she was really in love with the ex-roommate and was just waiting for him to come back to her.
Boy confronts Girl, Girl refuses to look Boy in the eye, and Boy tells her to pack her shit and get out of his house. Boy is good enough to give her a month to find a place to live and a new job. It's gloriously painful and awkward. Boy eventually recovers his emotional centrepoint and got the best prescription ever from his friend down at UC med: "No women - 6 months." Boy has pretty much been dry since then, too, unfortunately, due to most of the women who really interest me being A) Taken or B) In other states, and the whole LDR thing is not really a direction I want to go in. (Ok, let's also admit that there's probably more than a few that are also C) Not Interested. I admit I'm not the greatest catch out there.)
2. Your knowledge of the game of hockey is unrivaled amongst my friends. Why hockey?
I really just fell in love with the sport, and once I fell, I wanted to learn everything I could about it. I watched games, grabbed books, listened to oral histories, and it's a subject I really find fascinating. I tend to listen to the Home Ice (NHL) channel on my XM radio more than anything else, and during the season when they're usually talking about something new almost all the time, I love it - I soak it up like a sponge. Plus, I think the general attitudes you see in both the players and the fans resonates with my personality - you tend to get the attitude that it's about being a good, honest, postive person from most hockey environments, and I think that tends to rub off a lot on the fans and followers too.
3. You also exhibit a vast knowledge of history, specifically: military history. Why?
It's always been a hobby - and that's what I did get my degree in. :> I also have the kind of mind that absorbs and analyzes research very easily, so I tend to do well taking a lot of historical information and coming to conclusions about the causes, results, and impact of the discussed events, which is always fun. I love seeing the ways so many little things can create massive, sweeping changes.
4. You're a big man. Big enough to have social/psychological implications because of the way people react to you. How do you deal with the shitheads?
I used to have some serious anger issues. My temper's still not something I want to lose control of. The biggest thing I learned basically came down to: There are things worth getting angry about, and there are things that aren't. Everything that isn't worth getting angry about, I try to just let slide off, or just walk away from it and blow it off. Some Kenpo training and doing work in SCA fighting in College also helped with my control, but I think the biggest thing happened because I was a -serious- emotional mess for awhile when I first got out of High School and started college, and I hit dead rock bottom, including what may or may not have been a suicide attempt - to be honest, I'm really not sure. I -was- cutting myself for awhile, especially my arms, but at the time I was telling myself it was just a way to force a response out of myself, and I wasn't caring about what others thought.
Other people thought I was going suicidal, so I had a nice hospital stay and some mandatory counseling that my friends made sure I attended (and, now that I think about it, probably kept my family from finding out about), and pulling myself back together after that. Once I got myself back above water, a lot of things started to come together for me, and I really started to pull my shit togerther, and with that came looking at how I handled stuff, and making myself grow up and act like an adult.
It also got me into some very, very odd places with some things that happened on campus as things went on, but that's another show.
5. EVE... Firefly/Serenity... Star Wars/Star Trek... why are you a space nerd?
It all starts with robots. Absolutely loved robots as a little kid. Short Circuit, Transformers, StarCom, Gobots, Dr. Who, Star Wars, didn't matter. If it had robots, I wanted to see it. :> That lead into science fiction in general, and space stuff, and then my dad gave me my first Heinlein and Asimov books when I was 4 or 5, and it was alllll downhill from there. :D It's been a lifelong addiction fed by a very active imagination. I love the idea of visiting other planets, traveling beyond our solar system and exploring the darkness. It really captivates me.
(And yes, I do already have my DVR queued up for When We Left Earth this weekend in HD....)
Anyhow, I think that's that. Hope people enjoyed the reading, or at least weren't too bored. :D
