![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
bzarcherFrom Sire ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
blipangel:
1. Leave me a comment saying, "Interview me."
2. I will respond by asking you 5 questions of a very personal nature.
3. You will update your LJ with the answers to the questions.
4. You will include this and an offer to interview someone else in the post.
5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them 5 questions.
1. You mentioned an ex during my last trip to Columbus. What happened?
Ow. Getting right to it...well, tt's documented in this journal back through the past few years, but here's the main version.
Boy meets girl through online community. Boy talks to girl and gets into an LDR, including multiple visits to Chicago to see her. Girl comes out for Boy's college graduation, starts occasionally visiting him in Ohio as well, and things seem to be progressing well.
Girl has a traumatic event (best friend dies) and decides to leave Chicago and move out to Ohio. Boy comes out to help her move and gets threatened by one of her roommates. Girl comes to Ohio, moves in with boy, everything seems awesome at first, but Girl starts getting oddly distant. Girl says it's just issues and dealing with the loss of her friend, so Boy tries to give her space and it sorta turns into a wierd stalemate of a relationship spike with occasional tenderness and infrequent sex.
2 years later, girl reveals that the roommate who threatened Boy's life is now living in Columbus! Then a few months later says that he's living on the street and she's been taking money from Boy and using it to help support roommate, along with some very tall tales about what she's been doing when she was supposedly hanging out with some of her friends she'd made in Columbus. Boy finds out that Girl has, depending how one looks at it, either been cheating on him for several years, or never really loved him that much, and was mostly using him for food, a home, and a convenient body when she was really in love with the ex-roommate and was just waiting for him to come back to her.
Boy confronts Girl, Girl refuses to look Boy in the eye, and Boy tells her to pack her shit and get out of his house. Boy is good enough to give her a month to find a place to live and a new job. It's gloriously painful and awkward. Boy eventually recovers his emotional centrepoint and got the best prescription ever from his friend down at UC med: "No women - 6 months." Boy has pretty much been dry since then, too, unfortunately, due to most of the women who really interest me being A) Taken or B) In other states, and the whole LDR thing is not really a direction I want to go in. (Ok, let's also admit that there's probably more than a few that are also C) Not Interested. I admit I'm not the greatest catch out there.)
2. Your knowledge of the game of hockey is unrivaled amongst my friends. Why hockey?
I really just fell in love with the sport, and once I fell, I wanted to learn everything I could about it. I watched games, grabbed books, listened to oral histories, and it's a subject I really find fascinating. I tend to listen to the Home Ice (NHL) channel on my XM radio more than anything else, and during the season when they're usually talking about something new almost all the time, I love it - I soak it up like a sponge. Plus, I think the general attitudes you see in both the players and the fans resonates with my personality - you tend to get the attitude that it's about being a good, honest, postive person from most hockey environments, and I think that tends to rub off a lot on the fans and followers too.
3. You also exhibit a vast knowledge of history, specifically: military history. Why?
It's always been a hobby - and that's what I did get my degree in. :> I also have the kind of mind that absorbs and analyzes research very easily, so I tend to do well taking a lot of historical information and coming to conclusions about the causes, results, and impact of the discussed events, which is always fun. I love seeing the ways so many little things can create massive, sweeping changes.
4. You're a big man. Big enough to have social/psychological implications because of the way people react to you. How do you deal with the shitheads?
I used to have some serious anger issues. My temper's still not something I want to lose control of. The biggest thing I learned basically came down to: There are things worth getting angry about, and there are things that aren't. Everything that isn't worth getting angry about, I try to just let slide off, or just walk away from it and blow it off. Some Kenpo training and doing work in SCA fighting in College also helped with my control, but I think the biggest thing happened because I was a -serious- emotional mess for awhile when I first got out of High School and started college, and I hit dead rock bottom, including what may or may not have been a suicide attempt - to be honest, I'm really not sure. I -was- cutting myself for awhile, especially my arms, but at the time I was telling myself it was just a way to force a response out of myself, and I wasn't caring about what others thought.
Other people thought I was going suicidal, so I had a nice hospital stay and some mandatory counseling that my friends made sure I attended (and, now that I think about it, probably kept my family from finding out about), and pulling myself back together after that. Once I got myself back above water, a lot of things started to come together for me, and I really started to pull my shit togerther, and with that came looking at how I handled stuff, and making myself grow up and act like an adult.
It also got me into some very, very odd places with some things that happened on campus as things went on, but that's another show.
5. EVE... Firefly/Serenity... Star Wars/Star Trek... why are you a space nerd?
It all starts with robots. Absolutely loved robots as a little kid. Short Circuit, Transformers, StarCom, Gobots, Dr. Who, Star Wars, didn't matter. If it had robots, I wanted to see it. :> That lead into science fiction in general, and space stuff, and then my dad gave me my first Heinlein and Asimov books when I was 4 or 5, and it was alllll downhill from there. :D It's been a lifelong addiction fed by a very active imagination. I love the idea of visiting other planets, traveling beyond our solar system and exploring the darkness. It really captivates me.
(And yes, I do already have my DVR queued up for When We Left Earth this weekend in HD....)
Anyhow, I think that's that. Hope people enjoyed the reading, or at least weren't too bored. :D
blipangel:1. Leave me a comment saying, "Interview me."
2. I will respond by asking you 5 questions of a very personal nature.
3. You will update your LJ with the answers to the questions.
4. You will include this and an offer to interview someone else in the post.
5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them 5 questions.
1. You mentioned an ex during my last trip to Columbus. What happened?
Ow. Getting right to it...well, tt's documented in this journal back through the past few years, but here's the main version.
Boy meets girl through online community. Boy talks to girl and gets into an LDR, including multiple visits to Chicago to see her. Girl comes out for Boy's college graduation, starts occasionally visiting him in Ohio as well, and things seem to be progressing well.
Girl has a traumatic event (best friend dies) and decides to leave Chicago and move out to Ohio. Boy comes out to help her move and gets threatened by one of her roommates. Girl comes to Ohio, moves in with boy, everything seems awesome at first, but Girl starts getting oddly distant. Girl says it's just issues and dealing with the loss of her friend, so Boy tries to give her space and it sorta turns into a wierd stalemate of a relationship spike with occasional tenderness and infrequent sex.
2 years later, girl reveals that the roommate who threatened Boy's life is now living in Columbus! Then a few months later says that he's living on the street and she's been taking money from Boy and using it to help support roommate, along with some very tall tales about what she's been doing when she was supposedly hanging out with some of her friends she'd made in Columbus. Boy finds out that Girl has, depending how one looks at it, either been cheating on him for several years, or never really loved him that much, and was mostly using him for food, a home, and a convenient body when she was really in love with the ex-roommate and was just waiting for him to come back to her.
Boy confronts Girl, Girl refuses to look Boy in the eye, and Boy tells her to pack her shit and get out of his house. Boy is good enough to give her a month to find a place to live and a new job. It's gloriously painful and awkward. Boy eventually recovers his emotional centrepoint and got the best prescription ever from his friend down at UC med: "No women - 6 months." Boy has pretty much been dry since then, too, unfortunately, due to most of the women who really interest me being A) Taken or B) In other states, and the whole LDR thing is not really a direction I want to go in. (Ok, let's also admit that there's probably more than a few that are also C) Not Interested. I admit I'm not the greatest catch out there.)
2. Your knowledge of the game of hockey is unrivaled amongst my friends. Why hockey?
I really just fell in love with the sport, and once I fell, I wanted to learn everything I could about it. I watched games, grabbed books, listened to oral histories, and it's a subject I really find fascinating. I tend to listen to the Home Ice (NHL) channel on my XM radio more than anything else, and during the season when they're usually talking about something new almost all the time, I love it - I soak it up like a sponge. Plus, I think the general attitudes you see in both the players and the fans resonates with my personality - you tend to get the attitude that it's about being a good, honest, postive person from most hockey environments, and I think that tends to rub off a lot on the fans and followers too.
3. You also exhibit a vast knowledge of history, specifically: military history. Why?
It's always been a hobby - and that's what I did get my degree in. :> I also have the kind of mind that absorbs and analyzes research very easily, so I tend to do well taking a lot of historical information and coming to conclusions about the causes, results, and impact of the discussed events, which is always fun. I love seeing the ways so many little things can create massive, sweeping changes.
4. You're a big man. Big enough to have social/psychological implications because of the way people react to you. How do you deal with the shitheads?
I used to have some serious anger issues. My temper's still not something I want to lose control of. The biggest thing I learned basically came down to: There are things worth getting angry about, and there are things that aren't. Everything that isn't worth getting angry about, I try to just let slide off, or just walk away from it and blow it off. Some Kenpo training and doing work in SCA fighting in College also helped with my control, but I think the biggest thing happened because I was a -serious- emotional mess for awhile when I first got out of High School and started college, and I hit dead rock bottom, including what may or may not have been a suicide attempt - to be honest, I'm really not sure. I -was- cutting myself for awhile, especially my arms, but at the time I was telling myself it was just a way to force a response out of myself, and I wasn't caring about what others thought.
Other people thought I was going suicidal, so I had a nice hospital stay and some mandatory counseling that my friends made sure I attended (and, now that I think about it, probably kept my family from finding out about), and pulling myself back together after that. Once I got myself back above water, a lot of things started to come together for me, and I really started to pull my shit togerther, and with that came looking at how I handled stuff, and making myself grow up and act like an adult.
It also got me into some very, very odd places with some things that happened on campus as things went on, but that's another show.
5. EVE... Firefly/Serenity... Star Wars/Star Trek... why are you a space nerd?
It all starts with robots. Absolutely loved robots as a little kid. Short Circuit, Transformers, StarCom, Gobots, Dr. Who, Star Wars, didn't matter. If it had robots, I wanted to see it. :> That lead into science fiction in general, and space stuff, and then my dad gave me my first Heinlein and Asimov books when I was 4 or 5, and it was alllll downhill from there. :D It's been a lifelong addiction fed by a very active imagination. I love the idea of visiting other planets, traveling beyond our solar system and exploring the darkness. It really captivates me.
(And yes, I do already have my DVR queued up for When We Left Earth this weekend in HD....)
Anyhow, I think that's that. Hope people enjoyed the reading, or at least weren't too bored. :D
![[identity profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/openid.png){kind=small}
no subject
Date: 2008-06-05 11:07 pm (UTC)(I don't think I'm interested in answering very personal questions on my LJ, but interesting meme nonetheless.)
no subject
Date: 2008-06-06 01:48 am (UTC)(No worries, glad you liked it.)
no subject
Date: 2008-06-06 02:21 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-06-06 02:59 am (UTC)2. Where would you consider yourself "from"? It seems like you move around a lot.
3. Where do you see yourself going, career wise?
4. We don't hear much about your non-gaming life. Anything turning you on lately? What's shaking there?
5. Kickball Leauge? How's that work?
no subject
Date: 2008-06-06 03:17 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-06-06 03:24 am (UTC)1. Tell me about how you draw.
2. What brought you to Atlanta? You always talk so happily about New York - I'm curious.
3. Would you rather move North to be with Shay, or for him to move down South? (Both of you moving to some third option is also fine, just tell me what you think!)
4. Other than your name, if you could take something and change it in your life, what would it be?
5. Are you still seeing your therapist? Do you feel you've learned more about yourself from your time with him?
no subject
Date: 2008-06-06 03:28 am (UTC)2. I lost my job at AOL due to burnout and mental health issues I hadn't realized were so bad. My landlord decided he wanted his house back until he moved into a nicer one, and I had nowhere to go, and no job. So I asked
3. The plan is for him to move here, and that suits me fine. I just wish it were happening sooner.
4. Certain obstacles I haven't gotten past yet. Like my complete and unbeatable epic FAIL at housekeeping. I am better at managing money than I was, but I'd like to be REALLY good at it.
5. I'd like to but I haven't quite gotten to the point I can go back yet. And yes, I've learned a lot about myself from my time with him.
no subject
Date: 2008-06-06 03:32 am (UTC)Thank you!
no subject
Date: 2008-06-06 12:33 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-06-06 12:49 pm (UTC)2) Is there anything you feel like you can't express in your writing?
3) I know Gary tries to keep at least somewhat kosher (though part of that may also be his stomach issues) - do you? Do you otherwise consider yourself particularly religious?
4) How'd you and Gary meet originally?
5) Do you think you'd enjoy doing more postgraduate work in the future? (Don't worry about the money aspect - assume that Del Ray starts throwing you and Gary Stephen King money or something. :D)
sweet! I get to clear up a misconception! :)
Date: 2008-06-06 03:30 pm (UTC)2. I feel I do a whole lot better expressing things through writing than I do talking to people. If I feel I'm not conveying something, I'll work on it until it feels right. Some things I find hard to express because I can't get my brain around them all the way.
3. We're not Jewish :) Gary just had a job at a temple; most of their service staff were goyim.
The thing we do is avoid mammal - beef and pork - but it's only avoidance and not abstinence and we fall off the meat wagon every so often. Most of that is for health reasons; Gary's cholesterol went from "high" to "holy shit!". Part of that is my personal discomfort with inhumane factory farming methods. And another part was the invertebrate zoology class I took ... that'll put you off pork for a while.
Having said all that: bacon is damn tasty, and hard to give up.
4. We met at Context! It was a geek's cute-meet. Tim Waggoner introduced us.
5. Yes, I think I would. I've often thought of pursuing a PhD in Communication or a Master of Library Science ... though if money were no object I might do something really interesting yet impractical like get an art degree :)
Re: sweet! I get to clear up a misconception! :)
Date: 2008-06-06 03:42 pm (UTC)Huh - I actually thought Gary was Jewish before I knew about the temple because of the first time we had ya'll over for BBQ, and Gary said something like "Loved the brisket - can't touch the pork." Then I found out about the temple and had what I'd say was a cracked lightbulb moment. :>
One of my recipies I've been shown (but have yet to attempt) which I intend to play with along with the new cooker / patio is going to be Bacon Wrapped Corn on the Cob. I'll make sure you're over for that once I get it down. :>
Re: sweet! I get to clear up a misconception! :)
Date: 2008-06-06 04:00 pm (UTC)Re: sweet! I get to clear up a misconception! :)
Date: 2008-06-06 04:32 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-06-06 02:36 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-06-06 02:50 pm (UTC)2. Do you still talk to your family much? It seemed like this was on the downswing, and I haven't heard much since.
3. I know you liked some comics and Warren Ellis stuff when you were at Wooster - how much did Mikey get you into, and how much were you into it before you met him?
4. If you had to say where you got the better education, was it Wooster or DC?
5. Are you still doing any modeling / photo work? If not, why, and do you wish you still were?