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[bzarcher]

I always knew I was a fairly kinked person. But I'm realizing I may be moreso than I thought.



I've never minded being scratched, bitten, even tied up under the right circumstances. Blindfolds excite me, if I'm aware of who's done it to me.

But I'm starting to realize that I'm also willing to do almost anything that pleases my lover, or if I know it will make her feel better. I can see ways that pain will arouse me. I can see times when I'm so filled with need that it too can hurt. Hell, I've been in those times.

I've never thought of myself as that different.

Am I?

Comments

[neversremedy.livejournal.com]

Ah, a true submissive. No, it's really not as uncommon as you think.

Please just play by the standard rules:

Safe, sane, and consensual. Use safewords!

::hugs::

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Thanks. :D

I figure I'm not that insane (at least not on this.) I just never realized how different I was from 'standard', I guess.

[branwynelf.livejournal.com]

'Standard' as defined by who? Normal is as normal does. Or something like that. As long as everyone participating is in agreement with what's about to happen, have fun! At least, that's how I see it.

I've added you as a friend, by the way (um ... did so earlier, not because of this post *grin*). Hope you don't mind.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*smiles* Not minded at all. Thanks. :D

But, yes, I guess I see that. ;D

[heatherbeast.livejournal.com]

Nothing to worry about, Matt.

The scenario you presented gives the female in the relationship an empowering role. Most society thinks 'normal' revolves around the woman playing dead fish, effectively turning her into nothing more than a masturbatory aid.

SCREW THAT!

The ability to perform at that level to satisfy your partner is not weird. Certainly not something to be ashamed of. The level of trust and communication required between partners for that type of activity is something that can make a long standing relationship if applied to others aspects of your lives together. The most important aspect is NOT to neglect yourself, and of course, to develop a system where you can tell her that you have really had enough of a single session.

You have a great gift! Many people may hide it in shame, but don't. Exercise it for all it's worth. Just stay safe.

*hugs*

[skarlette.livejournal.com]

Sounds aces to me love. I can understand those desires well enough. The only thing that I ca'nt do is be tied down. It sends every survival instinct to break loose and hurt those who tied me up screaming forth. But it's cool love I share them as well. *kiss*

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*kisses back*

Thank you, love. It means a lot to hear you say that.
(And I can understand the tying. As I said, I have to know who's doing it, and concentrate, or I'd lose it, too.)

[skarlette.livejournal.com]

It's okay love. It does not help if I know the person or not. It freaks me out, no matter what. But I am very openminded and topics are alwats open for discussion.

[bzarcher.livejournal.com]

*lightly strokes your cheek* I understand. Believe me, I do. As you've noticed, I'm pretty open myself.....and I'm willing to try anything that makes us both happy at least once.